A distressing set of experiences led to an interesting discovery. I’ve been worrying about a problem I didn’t know how to address to the point of making myself ill. And that freaked me out and made me worry even more. And that made me obsess about what to do about my fear because, although flower essences helped, the problem I was worried about still remained. So I was trying to counteract my fear with flower essences and herb tea and relaxation exercises and energy healing and journaling and everything in my set of tools I could think of. I made a lot of progress and felt a lot better, but then I would think about the scariness of my problem (“problem”) and fall off my horse again. And again. And again. So then THAT freaked me out and I started to fear that I needed mental health help. So I set up a counseling appointment with someone I didn’t know, and the first session did nothing more than make me MORE upset and worried!
I did what I could to calm down after that, and then resolved with determination to focus on my job. And THAT was the most useful thing of all. I focussed, I got things done, I felt competent, and deeply calmed. Then I did a Mama Love order and the same thing happened: a growing remembering that I am a competent person. And also remembering that the “problem” I have isn’t the truth. It’s a fear about the worst case scenario. (More than one scenario actually.) But the worst case scenario is not necessarily the truth. In fact, far from it. But, but, but a scared little voice says, “what if it was true?” Well, I definitely wouldn’t like it, but Paul and I would find a way to work it out. We have resources, we have people who love and care about us. We even have some ideas of how we could handle the worst case already.
So the idea occurred to me that a flower essence-related approach that could work for me and other people isn’t necessarily just about calming one’s fears. It might be about digging in to remember your competency and ability to persevere. A flower essence formula I call “Resolve and Determination” came to mind so I took some a couple of times this evening to see what it would do in the current set of circumstances. The answer was that it did exactly what it did for me in the past when I first made it: I felt still and calm and grounded. Not fiercely determined, not jacked up for battle, but still, steady, patient, and relaxed. Basically put, I felt like I COULD relax because I was centered in my core, both grounded and capable.
So just a thought: maybe what’s driving your fear is a belief that you can’t handle what you’re afraid of. And the solution could be remembering that you actually can.
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Flower essences are used to assist with mind-body-spirit interactions and individual results may vary. They are extremely dilute which makes them quite safe. But because so little physical substance can be detected in a flower essence solution, these products are presumed to work on an energetic or vibrational level—something that cannot be adequately tested by western scientific methods. Claims made by me, therefore, are based on personal experiences and the evidence of the combined multiple decades of case notes by Dr. Edward Bach as well as Healing Herbs and Flower Essence Services (the companies who make the ingredients I use in my products). This is not, however, accepted medical evidence or substantiated scientific evidence from a modern allopathic point of view. I am not a medical doctor or licensed healthcare practitioner.
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